5 Tips to Boost Your Self-Esteem With Affirmations
When you consider that low self-esteem is usually the result of negative messages being absorbed by the subconscious, it makes sense that feeding your mind more positive messages can make a powerful difference!
What stops most people is the uncertainty of what to say, and how to word affirmations for optimal effectiveness. Below you”ll find some simple tips to help you write effective affirmations for improving your self-esteem.
1) Present tense. First, it’s helpful to word affirmations in present tense, not future. You wouldn’t want to say, “I will learn to love myself” because that makes it sound like you”ll get around to it ‘someday.” Instead you could say, “I choose to love myself.” The wording of that affirmation does two things: it empowers you with the addition of the words “choose to,” and it puts the time frame in the present moment.
2) Believable. At the same time, your affirmations should be believable to you. If you tried to say, “I am a wonderful person with a lot to offer the world,” you may not really believe that, so your subconscious mind might reject it. Instead, try to focus on a process rather than an end result in your affirmations. Say something like, “I am learning to embrace my uniqueness and share it confidently with others.”
3) Use the right tone. When you recite affirmations, you can do so aloud or just mentally, but you should focus heavily on the TONE you use. Rather than saying the words without emotion like you were reading a newspaper – really inject an element of love and tenderness into them. Your subconscious mind picks up on the emotional aspect of what you”re saying more than the actual words. Imagine the difference between saying the words, “I really love myself” with a tone of love and compassion, or sarcasm. Which do you think would have a greater impact on your subconscious mind?
4) Repetition. Once you’ve got some affirmations formed to work on your self-esteem, try saying them several times a day. Remember, your subconscious mind is constantly playing back old, negative messages – so you want to counteract those as much as possible. Keep reciting your more positive thoughts on a regular basis – especially when you become aware that you”re thinking negatively about yourself.
5) Give it time. Finally, remember that it will take time to change those old, negative messages in your mind to something more positive. It may take a few weeks or even months before you”ll notice an obvious difference in how you feel, and you may be tempted to think it isn’t working. Keep with it, and you will begin to see a difference eventually! Most likely it will be a gradual change. Little by little you”ll start feeling more positive, and notice that you”re feeling a bit happier and lighter. That’s your signal that it’s working!
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Hi Kathy,
I embrace your advice about properly doing affirmations. The most important piece of advice is probably to never use the future tense – some day, the day that never comes. Keep up your great work.
Take care
Oliver
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Katherine Droguett Reply:
June 18th, 2010 at 1:10 am
Yes!
Always use Affirmations in present tense.
Thanks for stopping by Oliver
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Hi Katherine,
great tips and thanks for the reminder that it takes time… its persistence but in a gentle kind way
Cheryl
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Katherine Droguett Reply:
June 18th, 2010 at 1:11 am
You are very welcome Cheryl
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Great tips Katherine! Making affirmations is vital to building your business, especially with all the negativity around us.
Sherman
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Katherine Droguett Reply:
June 18th, 2010 at 1:15 am
Affirmations are extremely important, not only for business but for our daily routine as well. It helps to achieve positive things
Thanks for stopping by Sherman
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This is really great! I am reading a book called the Power of the Subconscious Mind. It talks about affirmations in the book. They are more powerful than we even know. Thanks for sharing!
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Thanks for sharing that book’s title Keysha
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Anything that you can do to boost your self-esteem is important and affirmations are a wonderful place to start, because everyone can do them. Your tips on how to do them are perfect – it is so important to make them in the present tense and believable. Repetition breeds success, so you just have to keep making those affirmations until they sink in.
Adding an emotional emelent makes them more powerful – so putting feeling in will help a lot. It can also be helpful to write them down and look at them regularly, or record them for yourself to listen to from time to time, perhaps as you are going off to sleep; this is a time when your subconscious mind is naturally more open to suggestion.
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Katherine Droguett Reply:
June 18th, 2010 at 12:23 pm
Hi Roseanne;
Yes, writing them down it’s a great tip and you are right we are more laid back and open to suggestion when we reach that relaxation level.
Thanks for your great comment
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Hi Katherine,
Affirmations are powerful and you mentioned great 5 tips.
Thanks for sharing,
Jiri Majkus
Internet Marketing Coach
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Katherine Droguett Reply:
June 18th, 2010 at 12:24 pm
Hi Jiri;
I’m so glad you liked them
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Hi Katherine,
Affirmations play an important role in re-programming the subconscious. I was reading an interesting article this week that said they need to be done twice a day for 30 days as a minimum before one can expect to see results and that the average length of time most do them for is 9 days! No wonder so many people think they don’t work
~Marcus
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Katherine Droguett Reply:
June 18th, 2010 at 12:28 pm
You are right!
9 days won’t do it, you got to dedicate more time than that and as Roseanne mentioned here. Writing them down before going to bed it’s a great way to start implementing them to your daily routine.
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Hi Katherine, thanks for the great tips. Tone is something I think is often overlooked when people talk about affirmations, but you are definately right. I have also had success with listening to recorded affirmations.
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Katherine Droguett Reply:
June 18th, 2010 at 12:31 pm
Hi Rowena;
Tone can make a huge difference on your results of using affirmations.
Great tip on using recorded affirmations
Thanks for your comment!
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Thanks Katherine
I am a big believer of daily affirmations and anything that reminds us of why we do what we do, or want to do.
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Katherine Droguett Reply:
June 20th, 2010 at 1:47 pm
Yes Peter, practicing daily affirmations do remind us to stay focus on our goals.
Thanks for sharing your comment
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Hi Katherine – this is all so important. I would like to add something about affirmations being believable. This is hard if the goal is still a long way from where we are. But if we allow doubt in the back of our mind we just push away what we are reaching for.
As you say we can focus on the process but still we have to push away all doubts. I often do this by smiling and fist pumping as I repeat the affirmation. It induces strong positive energy and makes me feel like I know I’m right, no matter what anyone else might think.
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Katherine Droguett Reply:
June 20th, 2010 at 1:45 pm
Hi Charlie;
You are so right about smiling can help you to push all doubts away.
Thanks for sharing such a wonderful tip
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Katherine I so luv positive affirmations daily just gives that vibration a boost.
Yes I agree its the way its said so important. I luv your post.
Keep ROCKIN!
MariaEves
MLMTrainingBase
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Katherine Droguett Reply:
June 23rd, 2010 at 11:35 am
Thanks Maria
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Katherine Droguett Reply:
June 27th, 2010 at 11:04 pm
No problem Darryl!
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Katherine Droguett Reply:
July 1st, 2010 at 11:54 pm
Hi Jeff,
Welcome to my blog!
Thanks for your comment
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